TRUST VS DOUBT

Trust and Doubt are two opposing attitudes. Like many others, two ways to live your life, two faces of the same coin. But, do you think there are any differences between them or in the way you feel them? I am going to tell you a story, which happened some time ago.

“One of my friends was in love with a man but, as sometimes happens, they were just friends. In order to let him know how important he was to her, she decided to prepare the best present she could give him on his birthday party. She took her time to make her present look good, and every detail you can imagine, even the more simple and silly ones.

The birthday party came, she looked great that night, but she lacked confidence; she was terrified because she had her mind in a state of doubt.

She didn’t trust herself, and she spent the whole day asking herself: “What would it happen if he rejected me?”, – she didn’t like the answers she got in her mind, they made her feel sad and emotional.

As you can guess, during that party, her behaviour and body-language didn’t transmit what she really felt in her heart, she didn’t show the wonderful woman she was. Moreover, she lost the opportunity he gave her because of her doubts.

If I could turn the clock back a couple of hours before the party, be sure I would have told her not to worry, because whatever was going to happen would be ok. She had prepared a wonderful gift which everyone would have been happy to receive, and the best present she could make for herself would be feeling proud and confident of her value. I am sure that if she had gone to the party believing in herself, she would have shown the real wonderful woman she is, without letting her expectations and doubts take over herself.”

If you don’t believe in yourself, no one will do!!

Think the way you want to live

ATTITUDES TO CHANGE YOUR PERSPECTIVE

Most of times people behave with a victim’s attitude more than an hero’s attitude.

However, to create the life we would like to live if is essential to behave like an HERO. The Hero of your Life.

To know the opposite attitude to the Hero´s one, give us the possibility to change our perspective and get benefits.

Apart from now you could read in this blog some posts about these attitudes, which are known as “Power Tools” in the International Coach Academy (ICA)

Some of these are:

It will continue……….

Coaching

Listening

Listening

Most of us think that we know how to have a good conversation but, usually, we speak more than we listen. Obviously this is an error, because in order to have a good conversation, we have to be prepared to listen what the other person is saying us.

Particularly in coaching it´s essential to be able to listen carefully and use your five senses to what the other person is telling us. Anyone who wants to be a Coach should learn to listen to what is being said and what is not, I mean, most of the things are transmitted through body language. As a coach you should pay attention to the other person´s and to emotions and feelings, what the client is telling you with his or her eyes, or even with his or her hands

Look at to your client´s eyes (in this case be careful with culture customs), be sympathetic, let him or her finish what they are telling you (be careful not to interrupt him or her). Usually it is necessary. Try to get as much information as possible from the client to help the client say what he or she needs to and listen in order to improve in his or her commitments.